Why parents need to embrace the word no
As published on The Parenthood - Genevieve explores how we set an effective boundary for our kids.
"When we prioritise our kids’ freedom or happiness – but overlook our kids’ crucial need to feel like their parents are in charge and “at the wheel” – we are letting them down. Too much freedom, and a lack of limits actually makes children feel the opposite of free. When this occurs enough they often express their discomfort through limit-pushing behaviour.
Boundaries are essential for children, and also for parents, who are overwhelmed and exhausted and wondering if it’s meant to be THIS hard. As an educator working with parents around creating a secure attachment with babies and kids, and as a mum of four beautiful boys, I believe that boundaries are one of the highest forms of love there is.
So how do you set a boundary?
Let’s say your child is at a boundary moment. They are swinging from the rafters, throwing a toy, hitting or hurting. This isn’t working for you, it is hurting someone or is unsafe. What to do in three steps?"
